If you live in a cave, then you still would have heard the scandal that shook the Internet today. Long story short, Donald Trump supports sexual-assault (surprise of the century!). Twitter is currently a storm. Questions are being tossed around: will this break the election? Will the GOP stand by Trump? Why did it take so long for this to get leaked in the first place?
I have two questions for the world:
1. Was this what it took to break Trump?
Trump has said he would date his daughter, he talked about his daughter’s breasts when she was an infant, he has called women “pigs”. He called Mexicans “rapists”, he has expressed that women who have an abortion should be punished—this list could go on for another 1000 words, but not the point. Why is it so shocking that a man, who has been accused of rape and cheated on his wives, is able to rationalize groping women?
But I have a follow-up:
2. Why are we so surprised?
This has been branded a “locker room conversation”, and the sad part? I agree.
To clarify: no, I do not think this type of dialogue is acceptable. But is this something we could hear in a guys locker room randomly?
Yes. And that is where this problem is.
How many times have women heard guys “rating” girls based on appearance? How many women are assaulted on college campuses again? How many men have rationalized rape under the pretense that women were “asking for it”? How many men, when confronted with these statistics, insist that #NotAllMen are the problem?
Laci Green answered the last question quite well:
If we took a national survey as to how many women know of some man who acted like the way Trump did in that 2005 clip, the numbers might surprise a few. Two years ago, I wrote a similar piece regarding the Isla Vista killings, a hate crime motivated by pure sexism. The hashtag #YesAllWomen arose, and narratives ranging from microaggressions to rapes proved that in terms of gender equality, the world has a long way to go.
The boy who hit me was “just fooling around”. The teenager who rated me a three out of ten was only “having fun”. And my former friend was just “taking rejection badly”.
Is it so surprising that one of the presidential nominees is that person?